The Big Lessons in Loving Small Hearts

Okay, so far, we’ve talked about life experiences, the shoes we walk in, Carrie, friendship, growing into ourselves, and what home means. Dare I say it’s time to talk about love? And why I’ve carefully titled my blog All Carrie, No Big.

For those unfamiliar with Sex and the City and its connection to my blog, here’s the gist: the show follows Carrie Bradshaw (Hudson Serletic), a writer for TheNewYorkColumn (TheHudsonColumn), living in a NYC (Dallas) apartment just big enough to house her pride and joy—her shoe collection (my stories). Through her reflections on men, fashion, girlhood, city life, and love, she takes us on a journey through the joys, heartbreaks, and realities of being a 30-something (almost-20-something) single girl.

Her “love”—let’s call it infatuation—is Mr. Big, a finance giant fueled by pride, false charisma, and a knack for hurting Carrie. So yeah, he had to go. He simply didn’t align with my hope to fill the world with love rather than add salt to our wounds. Hence, All Carrie, No Big!

We’ve all met the Mr. Bigs of the world: charming, larger-than-life figures who fill gaps we didn’t even know we had. Yet beneath their allure lie insecurities and shadows they can’t shake. And there we are, the “Carries,” drawn to the possibility of love—even when it comes with blinders.

What Love Has Taught Me

Love is our greatest connection and most beautiful feeling. It starts within, radiating outward, and is always within reach. A false version of love can dim us. Taking on heartbreak transforms us. 

1. The Brutal Healing Process
   Walking away is hard, even when it’s right. I felt guilt and loss, wondering if I’d ever find love again. My first “love,” sensing my hesitation, became the “perfect partner,” promising everything I’d wanted. I almost went back, but deep down, I knew better. Real love comes with ease, not compromise.

2. Addressing the “Carrie” Within
   Letting go meant realizing love is everywhere—not tied to a person but woven into connections and compassion. This revelation shrank my Mr. Big into what he was all along: Mr. Small. My standards weren’t too high; he just couldn’t meet them.

3. Choosing Self-Alignment as Love
   Leaving someone who can’t love us back is an act of love—for ourselves and our future. By honoring my values, I stopped feeling torn and instead felt empowered, knowing real magic lies in staying true to myself.

4. Moving Beyond the “What Ifs”
   The “what ifs” haunted me—dreams of what could have been. But I reclaimed those dreams as my own, using them as a blueprint for the love I truly deserve.

5. Loving With Boundaries
   Boundaries don’t limit love; they guide it wisely. Real love doesn’t ask us to shrink; it encourages us to grow and expand. The love I have is for those who can return it.

6. The Role of Forgiveness
   Forgiveness freed me. It’s not about excusing hurt but releasing the weight of pain. True heartbreak isn’t about losing someone else—it’s about grieving the parts of ourselves we lost and reclaiming them, stronger and more aligned.

A Love Letter to You

Dear reader, if you’ve ever loved someone who couldn’t love you back (in the way you deserve), know that walking away isn’t an end; it’s the beginning of something greater. Reclaim the energy you poured into someone else and use it to elevate yourself.

True love won’t ask you to diminish yourself. It will lift you.

So here’s to bold choices: choosing alignment over attachment, wholeness over half-measures, and love that fills you up. By honoring yourself, you’re creating space for a love as big and beautiful as your heart.

Remember:
Every ounce of love you pour into yourself radiates outward.
Choose the love that’s all around you.
Choose the love within you.
And most of all, choose the love that honors you, exactly as you are.

I love you, dear reader.